i know what it is like to see friend after friend get married. i know how you feel deep in your heart when you see yet another engagement or pregnancy announcement on instagram. i, too, have offered countless tear-filled prayers to God concerning my singleness. and all too well, i know how it feels when a boy says sweet things to you and makes you feel special, only to change his mind.
sweet girl - i get it. i am right there with you. the struggle is real. it is painful and lonely and annoying and heartbreaking.
but it does not define you. i don't think you heard me - YOU ARE NOT DEFINED BY YOUR SINGLENESS.
i won't come at you with 'singleness is a gift' and 'this is a great season in your life' cliches that clueless people seem to freely offer. what you need to let sink deep in your heart is this:
you are loved by the God of the universe. the same God who spoke creation into existence with a breath formed you in the womb. He loves you more than you will ever comprehend. He showed His love by sending His only Son to die for your sins. that is true love.
"but God shows His love for us that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." romans 5:8
"no, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. for i am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord." romans 8:37-39
your identity is in Jesus. not a guy. not your relationship status. not how many guys liked your selfie. not your feelings. not the number on the scale. not your past relationships. not your shame and guilt. your worth is in Jesus and Him alone.
"i have been crucified with Christ. it is no longer i who live, but Christ lives in me. and the life i now live in the flesh i live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me." galatians 2:20
sweet sister, do not let the lies of the enemy or society convince you of anything less. you are lovely. you are precious in His sight. and you are not alone! one of the greatest blessings in my life are other ladies who walk the same road as i do. i wish i could gather all you lovelies together, order pizza, and talk into the wee hours of the morning. that's what my best friend did with me last weekend. your life won't magically begin when you get married. your life is right now. this moment. LIVE IT.